WARNING: This is not your average fashion or beauty post.
I just got back from the Women’s March in Dallas, which completely restored my faith in humanity– men, women, and children all chanting for equality and human rights, strangers hugging each other after exchanging amazing stories, marchers thanking every police officer they saw on duty who were helping make the event as safe and peaceful as possible. It was beyond inspiring and it felt so safe in the company of 8,000 supportive strangers.
And then I had to come home to read comments from strangers, friends, and family members online. Comments like “what’s the point of protesting?” and calling marchers/protesters scum of the Earth, lazy, unemployed, crybaby looters. I had to go through pics that I took today JUST to not feel so disheartened again. It’s disappointing to see that the most negative comments about the Women’s March are coming from the ones who are so sure they are going to heaven for being good people. God is watching, even reading your Facebook comments. He’s gonna pull up those receipts when you get to the gates.
Before I respond to some common reactions about this event, let’s talk about why I attended. A lot of my opinions and views are based on my life experiences– from what has happened to me to what I’ve seen happen to other people. Those differ from person to person, so please respect that. Here are the very personal reasons why I went (and alone at that):
* For 19 year old me who was tricked into a fake lunch date– a date that ended with her having to fight to keep her clothes on when a guy kept trying to take them off even after repeatedly saying no, and for any other person who had to go through something similar or even worse
* For all the other past versions of myself that got harassed, demeaned, objectified, and then shamed, touched without consent, made to feel uncomfortable and unsafe, and for every other woman out there who ever had to experience it
* For women of all walks of life who deserve equal pay, fair treatment, easy access to healthcare and contraceptives, maternity leave, and childcare
* For the injustices that the African-American community still constantly face, from police brutality to sheer racism, and for my son to not ever have to be fearful of anything or anyone simply because of the color of his skin, and that he be left with a world much better than this
* For the LGBTQ community, who still have to continuously prove that they are, in fact, human beings just like every one else and deserve the same rights and treatment (and no, it’s not a damn phase)
* For minority immigrants like myself who will often be seen as “outsiders,” who repeatedly get knocked down, whose chances and opportunities get stripped before they can even try, and for refugee families who deserve the right to live freely without fear and stigma
Those who know me will agree when I say that I am too proud to ask for a handout. I’d rather work hard for what I want in life than feel forever indebted to anybody, and if I rightfully earn something, then I can truly be proud of myself. Life has not been easy for me, but I’m not asking for a handout, a participation trophy, or for the government to just simply make life easier for me. I’m just asking for the government and its citizens to TREAT people equally, no matter their gender, sexuality, race, or sub-group/culture/socio-
To clapback on some repetitive comments from today though:
He was there, too. I have his contact info, you can email him directly regarding your concerns about his whereabouts and livelihood.
Yeah, I’m not stupid. But if we don’t voice our concerns, then progress will not be made. If women back then did not cry for the right to vote and the right for you to go to work, then your insults about getting a job would be invalid. Yeah, I’m gladly going to work because trailblazers paved the way for us to do so. You don’t seem too grateful about it…?
So, if you’ve made it this far and still would like to call me names, that’s okay. I’d rather be a snowflake than be full of hate and prejudice.