This post is sponsored by U by Kotex. All opinions are my own. #IndependentU
Self-esteem is something I struggled with growing up. I’m pretty sure attending an all-girls school didn’t help any, but I’m not regretting my experiences since it helped shape who I am now. It wasn’t easy constantly feeling insecure and it was terrible that the outside didn’t match how I felt on the inside. I’m not talking about any of this to fish for compliments but rather to let you know that if you are on the same boat, that you are not alone and that it does get better. This was me at my least confident:
I finally made my college dance team after not making it the year before. I thought that it would make me feel better about myself, but I’ve honestly never doubted myself more. I was very petite but felt absolutely overweight and I was lonely even in a room full of people. Having to move half way across the world, starting over, and making new friends takes a toll on a person and it’s even worse when you’re at that critical age when you’re just trying to figure life out. There were so many adjustments that had to be made on my end, but I’m very thankful for all the people that I’ve met and helped me out along the way. Here I am now:
This is honestly the happiest and most confident I’ve ever been. I have a clearer vision of who I am and who I want to be. I may have jumped from a size 0 to an 8 but I love my body the way it is and I’ve stopped apologizing for who I am. This is the point in my life where I can really say that I am a woman. I cannot be happier with the people I surround myself with and even though life isn’t perfect, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. The road to self-confidence is different for everybody, but here are some tips on how to get there:
This is the first step to understanding who you really are. What do you like? What do you stand for? If you know the person inside of you, then it’ll be easier to show the world who you really are. Some traits you have may change over time, and that’s okay. As long as you acknowledge the change, you’ll have an easier time adjusting.
Don’t ever apologize for who you are. Don’t feel embarrassed about clothes you like or activities that peak your interest. That is really what confidence is about– the fearless expression of oneself. You can easily tell when someone is doubting themselves and I try not to let that happen… EVER. You see that tropical print outfit above? I got a lot of criticism for it and I started to doubt myself, but then I asked myself why I wore this ensemble. The answer was pretty simple: “I like it.” I still do. I realized it’s not my job to please everyone. This is a pretty accurate representation of me and my style, so why should I be embarrassed by it?
3. Stay Protected And Worry-Free / Have A Support System
Coming from a mainly conservative country, tampons seemed to be a myth growing up. It wasn’t until I moved to the US that I discovered the world of convenient personal care. Back then, I used to just stay home and avoid any activities or daring outfits during that time of the month but then one critical moment turned it all around. I surprisingly got my period about an hour before I was set to go on stage for a performance. I started to freak out, but my teammates and dance friends calmed me down and assured me that everything will work out just fine. And it did! That’s when I realized the importance of keeping yourself protected. I now stock up on U by Kotex products and have them ready in every purse I have. Walmart offers the U by Kotex with bonus liner packs, so you even get more out of the deal! There’s no real countdown for when life wants to throw you curveballs, so you have to make sure you’re ready for anything. I also realized the importance of a great support system. I honestly don’t know what I would have done without my friends, and I love that instead of ridiculing me, they helped me through a crisis the best way they knew how. I now surround myself with the same type of people so I know that if anything happens to me, I’m covered.
Acceptance may be the hardest part, but it’s a hurdle that gives you the biggest relief once you overcome it. I’ve accepted myself for who I am and who I’ve become. I’ve accepted my past mistakes and my current flaws. Once you learn to be okay with every aspect of yourself, that’s when you will truly be happy. It’ll even help you when it comes to choosing who you surround yourself with because if you can accept yourself, then other people can, too.
Do you have any tips on how to gain more confidence?